If you want a good social life, you need to be attractive, amirite?

I've never been described as attractive and I've had a great social life. I'd argue that the biggest indicator of a good social life is being fun to be around.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Be kind and funny and people will want to be around you. Not rocket science lol

by Hegmannjamal 1 week ago

Being funny in social settings can be harder than rocket science for some people..

by Any-Amphibian-9662 1 week ago

Big same. Helps to be emotionally mature too

by Anonymous 1 week ago

idk, i mean, manipulative and emotionally mature people definitely can also get popular.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

But that's most often not a good social life, but a dramatic one.

by hermanjesus 1 week ago

I get told by a lot of people that I'm pretty attractive, and I've got a pretty bad social life. But tbf I'm not looking to be around more people, I enjoy my alone time.

by Forward_Woodpecker30 1 week ago

Humour and honesty (being yourself)!!

by Anonymous 1 week ago

What if my self is not fun to be around? Not due to being an asshole, just the uncomfortable kind of weird?

by Junior_Yard 1 week ago

i'm not physically attracted to my bros

by Scary-Preference-877 1 week ago

...or you simply don't know yet

by Anonymous 1 week ago

No, no literally. Go outside. Take off your socks and shoes, stand on the grass. Now sit on the grass, touch it with your hands. Breathe the outside air. They say it metaphorically but taking it literally and actually doing it is much better.

by kelvinortiz 1 week ago

When I lived in a small house in the city, I didn't have a proper garden so I would go to the park and take my shoes off and stand in the grass and feel it in my toes. It always made me feel so much happier.

by Demariojenkins 1 week ago

Ya, if you think that does anything but help reaffirm your own personal experience you are what I am talking about.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

No you don't. I'm fat and ugly and I have friends and a girlfriend.

by dylan45 1 week ago

I bet you're not ugly

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I bet you can't believe that people consider personality as more important than physical attraction when it comes to friendships

by hermanjesus 1 week ago

You're just giving him the approval he wants being fat and ugly has nothing to do with friendship especially with other males. I've never met another dude in my 36 years of life who has rejected friendship over my looks Being rejected over girl cause she doesn't find you attractive is just a natural thing.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

i bet he is

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Eh. A bit of hygiene, a trim, some clean clothes, and learning and applying basic manners can make any unattractive person attractive enough for basic socialisation.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I think it can open up doors at times but some of the most socially anxious/awkward people I've met are very attractive. Attractive or not, people will look in the mirror and see several things they wish they could change. It's just our human nature and it causes insecurities for a lot of us. It might help with how approachable you are but won't guarantee quality or quantity of connections. I agree that appearance is the first thing someone is judged on, but it's your personality that is really gonna determine with how things are pursued later.

by fleta77 1 week ago

Truly unpopular. Op needs real friends.

by tobinstokes 1 week ago

Nope, you just need to make the night more fun.

by lilaoconnell 1 week ago

No, you need to be good at socialising. Some of the most attractive people are the most boring, and some of the ugliest people are the most interesting. Not to dunk on good looking people, but there have been objectively good looking people that we I will avoid because they are dull as dirt.

by Middle_Studio 1 week ago

Looks help but being fun to be around, funny and genuinely interested in other people is more important.

by Apprehensive_Dog 1 week ago

I disagree with this 100%. Personality is all that matters. People want to hang out with people they trust and people they can relate to. Most people won't decide their friends primarily based on appearance.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Being attractive can help but at the core it's personality and similar interests

by Nealweissnat 1 week ago

I've never in my life made a "friend" on Instagram or TikTok. Is there any chance you're mixing "social life" and "social media"?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

maybe im too boomer to understand, i dunno what these kids are up to in kindergarden.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Haha, there is definitely some type of indoctrination going on in kindergarten!

by Informal_Mud 1 week ago

Dont underestimate charisma.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Just don't dress in weird ways, and have a good haircut. And bathe. I ran into a dude today in a skirt (not in a fashionable way) with very thin long hair, and he didn't smell great. I don't wanna hang out with him, not because he's ugly, but because every choice he's made signals to me that he's a weirdo. Wear decent clothes. Have a decent haircut. Bathe. That's all you need to do to be normal and thus approachable.

by PuzzleheadedPea 1 week ago

Duh. And likewise... if you want to be left alone, make yourself look just ugly enough that it turns people off. Plus, it's more funny when people realize you're capable and attractive underneath and they can't handle the realization.

by Straight_Oil 1 week ago

Wrongo. I think you've been on the internet a little too much, friendo

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You're getting tricked by social media/influencers. You see attractive influencers with all these "friends," but half the time they just meet other influencers to film a few videos where they pretend to bff's and then never see each other again. It doesn't hurt to be attractive, but it's no guarantee of a good social life OR requirement for one.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I think that the big indicator is how much treathen they feel of you.... If they feel you are gonna steal their husband, or their position at work etc they are not gonna like you... Even though it is not your fault that their husband isn't loyal or they just cant do the job... You have friends only when you are none threatening to them...

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You need 100 points to have a good social life. Being attractive can get you up to 69 points. You need to be funny, fun, nice, smart, or something else positive to make up those other points!

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Nope. You need to be funny. Intelligently funny.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Never been the most attractive guy. Quite overweight. Always had a decent social life. My grandparents were out with friends all the time and the were wrinkly ugly old people. My mum has a good social life and is pretty old and ugly now too. TikTok and Instagram "influencers" are not examples of people in real life. Much of what they do are fake and done for you and not themselves. What might seem like friendship could simply be professionals working together.

by Altruistic_Kale 1 week ago

Yes, but most of what makes someone "attractive" is under their control. Nobody wants to be around an unhygienic slob who smells, has a wrinkly shirt, messy hair, smells like smoke, is loud, and has horrible manners. There is a misconception that being attractive is all genetic, but I'd say maybe 10% is genetic and 90% is controllable.

by Natalia29 1 week ago

It's less attraction & more being well-groomed. I am hot, but if I let myself get dirty & pimply... people can still see I'm hot, but I'm clearly not taking care of myself, Lots of ugly friends of mine are swimming in it, because they are charismatic and hygienic.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

No

by Sad-External-4494 1 week ago

Wtf.. lol this couldn't possibly be more wrong

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Look if you're that ugly, just hang out with the blind.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Big disagree. So many popular kids in school were not attractive. Many of my friends I do not find attractive.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Are you attracted to all of your friends?

by Fit-Caterpillar-1266 1 week ago

Cash or status works wonders too.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

What a load of nonsense

by Kindly_System 1 week ago

I think that a better title would be if you want to have an easier social life, be attractive helps.

by Big-Camp 1 week ago

Thanks, I'll get right on that

by Away-Bear-1178 1 week ago

You don't need to

by rutherfordgordo 1 week ago

Not necessarily… i think i'm ok looking but i can say i have dated unattractive men in my past. Confidence and personality set them apart.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It certainly helps, but I know a lot of unattractive people with great social lives. They are outgoing though.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I hardly disagree, I'd say you just need to be an extrovert and not an asshole at the same time and your basically good to go.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Nah. Being a vibe is what brings you a great social life

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I'm severely good looking so I wouldn't understand

by Anonymous 1 week ago

This isn't unpopular it's just wrong.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I don't really disagree, but maybe not to this extent? I am sure it is a factor but it is not the only factor. I do agree that it matters though, but I never cared about social media like that so that part i disagree.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I'm not a reactive and have 2 separate friend groups that I'm close and very social with. I also started going back tow school a year ago and have made a group of friends at my school as well. We've gone on vacations and I hang out with them weekly. I also have a girlfriend this is just not true at all.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Not really.

by Huge-Studio-2983 1 week ago

Nah there's a bunch of ugly people socialising and having fun out there

by Active_Calendar_7380 1 week ago

What is not true is that in order to have a good social life, you need to be attractive. What is true, however, that if you're attractive, you will almost certainly have a good social life (at least for men). So, I think your opinion is misconstructed.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Nope. I'm a pretty girl and socially unsuccessful in general. I'm definitely doing something wrong, since I have a revolving door of "close friends" that sort of ghost me after a year-ish. I'm okay at networking for work, but most male connections fall through or ghost me when they find out I have a boyfriend or I'm not interested in them. Being attractive can hand you opportunities to social situations, how you navigate them is completely up to you. I've been handed plenty of opportunities to be socially successful, but I've fumbled them for one reason or another (anxiety, laziness, judgement, etc etc).

by Anonymous 1 week ago

This is ridiculous and not true. Get off the internet, there's a real world outside.

by EquivalentBed6717 1 week ago

Just so not true.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Don't be so chronically online and get away from wannabe influencers. This just isn't true at all, then again, I stay away from people more fixated on how instagrammable I would look and I have all the close friends I need.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Tbh, I am conventionally attractive for a woman and my social life is pretty empty, mainly because I'm not extroverted and dislike most people. I have an extroverted partner and he has lots of friends, but I struggle to genuinely connect with others. My looks have always attracted people, but that doesn't exactly translate to good friends or a strong social life. Looking nice doesn't suddenly mean you're compatible with others or that you'll just magically have things in common.

by Hassieprohaska 1 week ago

Not sure if you're saying this as an unnatractive person who can't make any friends, or an attractive person who only has other attractive friends. Either way you're weird and wrong, I'm pretty unnatractive and yet I hang out with other people so much it's hard to find time for myself. All you need to do is have a hobby or interest, talk to people with said hobby or interest, and it's about that easy you guys can do stuff together and you'll form bonds and end up doing other stuff together. I met some friends through D&D, none of us had ever met, and we go out to dinner together, go to conventions, and just hang out. And this can be easily replicated with any hobby, I think the only prerequisite for having a good social life is to be interesting and fun to be around.

by bechtelarcristi 1 week ago

People who blame their poor social or dating luck on looks are in fact lacking social skills more than looks.

by TangeloHorror9674 1 week ago

no, i don't even know how some of my friends look but i am still friends with them.

by Ok_Barracuda 1 week ago

No, fat ugly people are always at the bar

by Anonymous 1 week ago

None of my friends even have TikTok.

by Demariojenkins 1 week ago

I'm attractive and have a terrible social life. These two things are not mutually exclusive. A lot of unattractive people have a lot more friends than I do. I'm very pretty and approachable but very shy, a loner by nature and have social anxiety. Besides my fiancé and my sisters I have zero friends. Definitely unpopular opinion. In fact, I think pretty people tend to have less friends because they are selective with whom they choose to associate with. There's also something to be said about attractive people's friendships being superficial while average & below average looking people form deeper connections and tend to have more fulfilling friendships.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You need to be presentable, but you don't need to be attractive.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

it's genuinely sad that someone could actually think this way.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

This is something ugly people with bad personalities day as a cope

by Anonymous 1 week ago

This is the opinion of a person who thinks that they are ugly, have no self esteem and are very jealous of attractive and popular people, but also think they're better than others.

by nannie94 1 week ago

I'm hideous and I have a great social circle.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I have a great social life and I'm average-looking at best…

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Your first mistake is assuming a social life is built on social media platforms. Believe it or not, normal humans who do not care about these kinds of things exist. The choice to surround yourself with these bad types of people is your own choice. Choose normal people.  Your second mistake is assuming a social life is just about the looks and not the friendship itself, even with the opposite sex.  Your third mistake is assuming all social life is limited to being in your 20's surrounded by other immature adults who focus on these silly ideas.  Social media did a number on you. No, you don't need to be attractive physically. Just don't be a dud in conversations or annoying and you will manage.

by laurianestroman 1 week ago

Kinda true

by No_Winter 1 week ago

You probably look at all the over weight and unattractive entertainers (Matty Matheson, Jonah Hill, etc) and say "but they're attractive in their own way and that's why they are making it" Attractiveness doesn't decide a social life, it's the person and their energy and always living like how they feel when they chew 5 gum that makes them have a social life.

by Big_Lingonberry 1 week ago

This isn't an unpopular opinion this is just a dumb opinion lmao

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Not true. I‘m average-looking at best, yet I am blessed with amazing friends. I can't even really complain about dating, I‘ve had wonderful relationships to women (honestly some way out of my league), and I‘m with the kindest, smartest, most caring and stunning looking woman I know. Yes, especially when I was younger, sometimes it felt as if other, more attractive looking men had it much easier, but looking back I wouldn't want to trade with any of them.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I have never once befriended someone because they are attractive. In fact, i've only friended someone through common interest.

by feestjarred 1 week ago

But those are not real friends? I think the easiest is to be friends with God...

by Anonymous 1 week ago

So, an imaginary friend?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

False u can also be rich, or lucky, or decent looking with a great personality.

by halvorsonnickla 1 week ago

Partly true Hot or funny

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Or you just need to be rich

by Anonymous 1 week ago